Focus instead on being your best self, no matter what your age.
Worried you aren't good-looking enough anymore? Who'd want you when there's some 30-year-old hottie turning everyone's heads at the gym? Don't even let yourself go there. "Within the gay community, negative stereotypes reinforce the belief that gay relationships are based solely on physical attraction, and that once youth starts to fade, we are unlikely to have any real or lasting relationships," says Rik Isensee, author of Are You Ready? The Gay Man's Guide to Thriving at Midlife. The hurdle this time? The gay community's - OK, let's get real, mostly the gay male community's - ageism. Why? After years of "working on ourselves" and fighting social prejudice to gain self-esteem, many of us struggle to keep it. Confront your fears You're never too old to find love, but that's not a message gay men hear very often. These strategies can help you develop your inner explorer to make dating after 50 a little less daunting:ġ. Right, gay dating isn't easy.īut don't let that be your excuse for sitting home on Saturday night watching reruns of The Golden Girls. Whether you're single again after the end of a long-term relationship or you've been around the block a few times still on the hunt for Mr.
If you're looking for love, these tips will get you headed in the right : Dave Singleton | Bette Davis used to say, "Getting older ain't for sissies." Amen! Neither is dating at midlife - especially if you're a gay man.